Why did he hang himself?

I had a distant relative, who lived in a totally different country, far away from me. In 2003, I went to visit his family with my mum. He fell in love with me immediately. I did too (though not as serious as him). He wanted to marry me. I was only 21 and very afraid. Then I returned to my country and forgot about him. I told him it won't work out since his dad wouldn't agree (his dad just opposes love for no reason). I never thought about him till I visited his family again in 2006. I was there for 2 weeks but we never talked. Before I left, we got 30 minutes time alone. He took me to a bookstore (upon my request). I shopped and we returned. He teared and told me how much he still loved me.



I came back to my country again, feeling very depressed. I thought I will give him a chance again. I agreed to marry him and even resigned my job, ready to leave my country and be with him. But again, his father disagreed. Then I told him to come to my country instead. He said he can't saying that he's afraid something (like death) might happen to his dad. I was very upset, felt cheated, that he made me go thru so much, all my frens and family knew, I lost my job because of him and he was unwilling to even make a small sacrifice for me. I cried becoz I thought that if he really loved me, he would come and be with me, whether or not his father agrees.



I moved on, telling myself, I will never think of him again, for the pain he gave me and my family. Then he came. A year later, when I've already met my husband now. I refused to talk to him. I refused to even see him. And he left. I married my husband (whom he never met). Then he came again, last week. He stayed in my aunt's place. Throughout the time here, he kept telling them I didn't talk to him and how much he still loves me. He saw me and my husband and I only managed to say a "Hi." I didn't talk to him, although deep down inside, I wanted to say a few more things than just a hi. But I didn't because now I'm married, and he's not. I was afraid, that if I talk to him, I will cause him more pain. So I did not talk to him. So he returned to his country within 4 days. Then just 2 days ago, he hung himself in his room. Everyone blames his dad now (for not agreeing to let him marry me). I blame myself. I blame God. I blame life. My sis said he died and proved his love for me.



Why did he kill himself? Did he not know that there'll be many who will grief over his death? I can't help but cry. What will happen to his soul now? There's plenty of Christian/Islamic belief that when one commits suicide, they will suffer for eternity and go to hell. I don't want that to happen to him. Is there a way I can save his soul? Is there a way I can say sorry? Why did he hang himself?
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You do not have any responsibility for this happening. When someone has that innate depression and doesn't get help this can happen for any reason this just happened to be the time. He was responsible for getting help for himself and he didn't. God forgives I truly believe. He was not a bad man and nobody can be blamed for what happened. Maybe it would help for you to have a session or two of therapy to talk this out with a professional who will be more able to help you. Please take care, my prayers and thoughts are with you.
Lfie can be cruel and sometimes people forget life is work and can be very hard and trying at times i'm sorry for your loss Most people who commit suicide are doing it for selfish reasons and forget those whom love them most. I feel for you more than i do him. The best thing is to live your life and remember how it feels and make sure everyone you love knows you care. Bless ya bothWhy did he hang himself?
This happened similar to my dad's friend, he was in love with one girl very deeply, and they were bf and gf and the girl broke up with him for some reason. Then the guy drugged him self and he died. Some guys desire there life to one person, and yes you may feel guilty, but you didn't kill him , he killed himself, he was foolish because he told you he loved you and all but he didn't make any sacrifices for you. It's ok , don't feel bad, he killed him self because he felt guilty, and he thought life was over because you found someone else. Nothing bad will happen to him. When someone dies, their dead, nothing else happens. That's it, you die, and your dead, not much I can say about it.
Sounds pretty clear to me, he did it because of you.



His soul is doomed to return %26amp; do it over again until he gets it right. YOu can say sorry thru a clairvoyant or medium like John Edwards.Why did he hang himself?
The blame game is ridiculous, him hanging himself has nothing to do with you, his father, or God. The guy had serious mental problems for longer than you knew him. He chose to do what he did, because he did not see his own value as a human being. I repeat it had nothing to do with you, if you feel you have to blame someone (which is wasted energy) blame him he is the one who made the choice to hang himself. I'm sorry for the family's loss, but don't put the blame where it doesn't belong.